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September 20, 2007
the worst thing
In discussing past relationships with a buddy, we agreed that being called "scary" by our exes was the biggest insult we'd each endured. Scary as in physically threatening. As in only the barest thread of self-control standing between her and physical abuse. Call me stupid, call me selfish, but don't you dare imply you ever felt threatened. Sons of wife-beaters are often sensitive on this point. The very suggestion cuts deeply.
So what's the worst thing you can be called by your partner or former partner? What bomb is nuclear for you?
One time when the Approval Whore (AW) was at my house crying about some perceived slight or another, I made myself a bowl of soup. Importantly, I was in my stocking feet. Well, I slopped that 212 degree soup on my feet, and as socks are wont to do, they absorbed the scalding liquid. I howled in pain. Somehow, the AW managed to turn this into her personal tragedy. My yelp became a Big Stinky Issue. She was terrified, you see, and she never recovered emotionally. That's when my true nature as a woman-beater was revealed to her. I am not making this up. She milked this bone-dry udder.
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